Modestly Beautiful

I have been mulling over this topic for a while now and wasn’t quite sure how I would start it off, I guess the best place to start is just by sharing what is on my heart. I, like most girls have always wanted to be beautiful. There are many times in my life that I have felt far from beautiful and then there have been times where I truly have felt beautiful. I think this is normal, as we all go through seasons in our lives. I grew up in the 90s and 00s where Jennifer Anniston’s stick figure and board straight hair were the very essence of what society called beautiful. It was difficult during that time for a girl with curves and wavy hair. However, I made it through, unscathed for the most part, with a better understanding of how to work with what I had rather than trying to achieve the impossible and all the while trying to accomplish this goal modestly.

A couple of months ago I was at youth on Friday evening (my husband leads youth at our church) when a young girl told me that she aspired to be like me. Whoa. She went on to tell me that I was beautiful and always looked put together (maybe not in these exact words, but it was what she meant). Talk about a humbling experience. Realizing that the choices you make about what you wear and how you act are being watched by these young adults. You see, I have all sons. Truly I could probably walk out of my room wearing a potato sack and they wouldn’t bat an eyelash. What I choose to put on each day is not because I have daughters at home watching what I wear. What I choose to put on each day is a representation of my walk with the Lord, wanting to honor my husband, and wanting to look appropriate for work or church.

This is the goal I hope to accomplish with Lydia & Lilac. Providing a selection of clothing that will make women feel and look beautiful and that will also honor the Lord. When you look through our collection or watch our sneak peeks on YouTube, you will see that we sometimes make suggestions on what to pair a dress with (a cami, a sweater, leggings, etc.). This is because we are sometimes provided clothing by our vendors that may be on the shorter side or low cut. However, most of the time you will find that out clothing is modest and appropriate for work, Church, etc. We desire to honor God through our clothing options, because we live in a society where this is becoming more difficult to find.

We have a responsibility as Christian women to dress in a God honoring way and set a godly example for the young girls in our churches today. When this young lady said this to me, it was a reminder that just because I don’t have daughters, doesn’t mean that there aren’t girls out there watching how I present myself and I can guarantee that they are watching you as well. The truth is they watch more than what’s on the outside, they watch our actions and they hear our words. Are we displaying the beauty of Christ through a gentle and quiet spirit (which does not mean to be a weak woman without a voice…but more on that at another time)? Are we displaying a look that is God honoring? Take some time to reflect on this today and join me in a conscious effort to set forth a godly example for these young girls with our actions, in our words, and in our dress.

Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised. Proverbs 31:30

Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. 1Peter 3:3-4

Your Son has Hashimoto’s

F4DAB252-987D-4F38-9E3B-788AA7569619.jpegI have wondered if I should hit the publish button on this post all week.  I know others experience things that are much more difficult beyond this.  We are thankful that we now have an explanation for the things our child has been going through and for the good treatment our son is able to receive.  It was still difficult news to hear.  I have also wondered if this post would be to personal to share on the Lydia & Lilac site, but we acknowledge that Lydia & Lilac is also an opportunity for us to share what the Lord is doing in our lives.  So without further ado, here is our post originally written October 3rd.
“Your son has Hashimoto’s”, these are the words that were spoken to Jerry and I this week.  Although we had a pretty good hunch that the diagnosis was coming, preparing yourself for the news that your child has a disease that you, as the parent, cannot take away is never something you hope for.  If you are like most people I talk to, you may be wondering what in the world Hashimoto’s is.  Simply put, Hashimoto’s is an autoimmune disease that attacks your thyroid.  In a child this manifests itself in a myriad of symptoms that include sensitivity to cold, dry hair, skin, or nails, constipation, difficulty with memory, weight gain, and lack of energy.  Hashimoto’s can also cause a stunt in growth, intellectual disabilities, and learning disabilities; which we fortunately, did not experience.
Our little boy has always been a happy and healthy kid.  In first grade he was diagnosed with ADHD.  He has a hard time sitting still, loves to chatter all day, and enjoys playing outside with his brothers.  He loves to run errands with mom and he is brilliant.  Academically, things come naturally to him and there are times I wonder if he has a photographic memory.  He has a smile that can light up a room and he is silly beyond belief.
About 3 months ago, we went to a routine appointment for ADHD.  Our little man had gained quite a bit of weight.  While talking to his doctor, we began to realize there had been quite a few changes.  He didn’t want to play outside very often, was always tired, didn’t ride his bike anymore unless his brothers absolutely begged him to, he rather stay home than go on an outing with mom, and when friends came over to play, he would play in short bursts spending most of his time on the couch.  He was having stomach problems and was cold all of the time.  We were on our way out the door of the office, when his doctor caught up with me and said she had been looking at the numbers and thought it might be a good idea to get his thyroid checked.
So off we went for blood work and we made a follow up appointment with his primary peditrician.  At this visit, his pediatrician said that he thought it was probably nothing, that no one had ever come through his office for weight gain and ended up having Hashimotos.  Then, he looked at the numbers.  Next he started to talk to us about Hashimoto’s and hypothyroidism and sent us for more blood work.
Fast forward three months and here we are, a new diagnosis, one that I know very little about and am still trying to wrap my head around, I am sure in time I will come to have a better understanding of things like THS, T4, etc.  In the mean time we find ourselves here in this place of uncharted waters.  I think it finally hit me yesterday when picking up his medication.  I had a small melt down.  I realized that this is for life, I can’t take it away.  I’m thankful that it is something that we can manage with medication, but as a parent you never want your child to have any type of disease, disorder, or disability.
We know that our little guy is in the hands of God and we trust that He will take care of him.  I have been reminded again that my children are His and that He has given them to us to care for and point to Him.  Our job is to teach our son that God loves him and to take care of him.  We have been blessed with the support or family and friends.  They have been sending us information and articles and we are so thankful for any and all support as this is still very new to us.  We will face the days ahead together with compassion and a better understanding of what our son is going through.  We will face each day with prayer and will continue to let him know that he is loved beyond belief.