You may have read my blog post on my theme for 2018. If you haven’t, you can read it here! This year, I’m focusing on healthy living. This goes beyond just physical health (although there is a place for this and I will have a blog post on this topic later) and reaches into spiritual and emotional health, finances, and relationships.
Each month I am focusing on one area and sharing what we are doing with you (you can read about our January topic here). Originally I was going to focus on physical health this month, but with our wedding anniversary and Valentine’s Day around the corner, I thought it would be fun to cover marriage instead.
My husband is one of my most treasured gifts here on this earth. I am so thankful that I get to experience life with him and raise our precious boys with him.
I grew up in a loving home with a beautiful example of marriage. There was never a doubt in my mind growing up that I wanted to be married some day. I never dreamt that at 12 I had already met my future husband! We of course did not get married until much later, but more about our story another time.
Today we are looking at some things that can contribute to the health of marriage. We won’t be delving in very deep on this post. However, in the future I would really like to take a closer look at the topic of marriage. I am just giving a brief overview of things Jerry and I will be working on throughout the year.
Spending time in God’s Word separately…and together
Spending time in the Word of God is essential to marriage. The only way to know how to love unconditionally, is to see the example set forth for us by Christ.
Trust me on this, there have been many times that Jerry and I thought we knew what unconditional love was, but were very much loving conditionally. Unfortunately this caused heartache, it it also taught us that in order to protect our marriage and keep it healthy we have got to be in the Word. If not, we are susceptible to the lies of this world.
We have to remember to be in scripture, not just individually, but also together. This can be challenging with busy schedules and although I would love to say that we do this every day, that would not be true. Right now we plan to set aside a time to do this weekly.
In the past, we have done different studies together that are marriage centered. This has always brought us closer together and we can both say that we thoroughly enjoyed them. We just need to get better about committing to time in the Word together.
I love that I get to share what God is teaching me with my best friend and I love that we are able to encourage each other!
This quote is beautiful! Yes, a happy marriage is a wonderful thing, but if you are both focused on having a holy marriage, joy takes residence deep in your soul and everything else seems to fall into place. No matter the circumstances that surround you, seeking a godly marriage gives you joy, peace, and strength that we could never get from seeking happiness alone.
Spending time in prayer separately…and together
Just as important as being in the Word is fostering our relationship with God through prayer. Prayer brings peace, encouragement, strength, and healing. Prayer gives us direct access to our Creator and it is through prayer that we commune and fellowship with Him.
There is nothing better than coming together with your spouse in prayer. One of my absolute favorite things is praying with my husband.
When we pray together, I feel security and peace like no other. Scripture even states that God is in our midst when two or more are gathered together in prayer (Matthew 18:20). How beautiful!
Spending time doing things together
Jerry and I love to be outdoors! We love hiking, going for bike rides, spending days at the beach, and kayaking. We also love simple things like getting coffee or going to the bookstore together.
The truth is that we did a fantastic job of setting aside time to do these together in 2016, but in 2017 we were so busy that we didn’t make this the priority that we should have.
We are committing to set aside time to do these things we enjoy together in 2018.
Spending time with our boys
As I said before, we love being outdoors. We also love to take our boys along with us on our adventures! It is important to not just set aside time to do things together as husband and wife, but also as a family. You see out of this beautiful love story of ours, we were given even more to love, our 3 precious boys!
There are seasons in life and there will be a day where it is just the two of us, but right now we are in the season of parenting children. This means that although we do get a little time to ourselves on occasion, most of our time is spent together as a family unit, which is just as God intended!
It is during these moments that we teach our sons about marriage, that we model a godly marriage for them. It is during these times that our boys learn about being a husband and father. It is during the time that we spend together that the greatest life lessons are learned.